I set the boundary with my h that we discussed a few pages back. It took some strength to do but it paid off. Things were quite different this time we met.
- He pursued me to meet up - He arranged the time and day a week before - He contacted me the night before to set a venue. - He paid for the meal - He has since sent me Christmas card and is sending me a present to take with me on my travels as I am off backpacking for 5 weeks. - I was strong, calm, friendly, relaxed and happy (not happy at meeting him but happy in my new strength) and in control in the meeting.
I am now not changing a thing. I am not going to pursue, get excited that these small gestures mean he is coming home, but enjoy my holiday.
Thank you for helping me 'get' this. It has helped me feel so much stronger.
