Mish, when we went to Retro we did some FOO (family of origin) stuff. That is when I realized that the unspoken message I got from my parents was that I couldn't do anything, except school stuff, for myself...
That is my mom's problem, not mine. She has ocd although she claims she doesn't. I was never ALLOWED, let alone told, to do any chore of any kind as a child. B/C I would probably do it wrong and she would have to re-do it.
So I got to college having never cooked anything except ramen noodles, never having washed or ironed or folded any kind of laundry, heck I didn't even make my own bed! And as embarrassing as it is to admit, my mom styled my hair for me until the 8th grade. She just acted like it was her job to do so!
Anyway not trying to have a pity party, I am not a fan of blaming parents for your situation. But I do acknowledge it leaves me often feeling as if I must refuse any offer of assistance now to prove I am a capable person!
OK got to go get ready. Church, then my extended family on my mom's side Christmas party. Then tonight we are having Dan over for cake as it is his birthday today. Just thought it was the right thing to do.
She just acted like it was her job to do so!
