I think she will know H and I both are together on this. I was very respectful in my email, not judgemental, not condeming but very clear that H wants no contact (otherwise why would he have forwarded her message to me) and that I respectfully request that she not contact "us" again.
She asked specifically about our son, by name, as he was young when all of this happened and likely the reason my H did not move to her state and ultimately ended the affair (although he did not return home right away), she asked about the "girls", then me by name...then said mostly she wanted to know how he was doing.
In my email I did tell her that he was happy, had restablished a good standing with our congregations, friends, and family again.
She was never the pushy type, so I really think the fact that she knows that H is totally open with me and that we are both on the same page with our marriage, that I won't hear from her...I actually think it will be shock to her that he forwarded the email because he tended to be such a private person.
Then again she could have me blocked from her email and not even receive or know he shared it with me.
H says he will not reply to her as that will be his message...no contact is no contact even if she sends him a message asking all kinds of questions.
I think it sort of burst any last bubble for H, he was just so sure she would have never sent him anything...it still stings that he thought I would even pretend to be her...really would have been stupid on my part because it could have caused a reaction from him to contact her...I told him I wasn't that stupid.
H thought that I was still worried about him...trusting...I told him that he has given me no reason. He comes home, he used the computer if full site of me and the family, he is not secretive, he is not drinking, no signs...I don't feel any need to check up on him...if I didn't think I could trust him I wouldn't have worked on rebuilding our marriage at all...
She did succeed in stiring up the painful feelings that I had dealt with for a long time...no feelings of wondering if H is here for me...just old pain...it will pass, H loves me
Thanks for being here for me just to vent out...this helps...I don't come here much at all anymore because I am so busy with life...but it is nice to know that this place is here for those who need it and those, like me, who need to touch base once in a while...
