I'm a big fan of Retrovaille. You do not have to be Catholic. Both parties need to come to the table, and third party must be out of the picture. Good luck.
I guess I need to just have patience and hope that with her time alone she will miss the family we had, not everything was bad and think about coming back and working on things. Like I said she seems willing to try counseling, so that's a positive sign. As for the retrovaille, maybe down the road. A good thing is that as more time goes by I am realizing that the problems are not only mine, we both contributed to this mess.
She just picked up my son. Very cold, but I was pleasant, said Hi. Did not apologize though. It's a beautiful day in Austin so I will take a nice 20 mile ride on my new bike today to get my mind off things!
Now I'm getting the silent treatment, still don't want to apologize. I texted her when I heard my son's friend's grandfather passed away to see which one, no answer. Had to get the news from a friend. I need to stick to my guns and not back down.
You said she was separating to get space and see if she misses you. She won't if you're still contacting her. Give her the space she asked for. If you don't, you'll push her further away.
I'm wondering how to deal with trying to detach and going to MC at the same time. We went to one session about a three weeks ago and it was good I guess. He is pro-marriage which is good. We have another session scheduled for 1-22. Anyone have any suggestions?