Hello all...I'm new to this site and have found it to be very useful during this difficult time.
I've been separated from my H since late May 09. He filed for D after finding out about my EA in Sept 09. I did all the usual things that DB say NOT to do. I cried, begged, pleaded, rationalized my wrong doing, only to make things increasingly WORSE. During this time he treated me like a BILL COLLECTOR, wouldn't accept my calls or respond to text msg.'s.
Over the last month or so, I've noticed that he has started to accept my calls and is cordial to me but our conversation are surface and business related, nothing to deal with our divorce proceedings. To make matters worse he is now working 6 hours away and I'm unable to see him so I can only converse with him over the phone. Furthermore, I strongly believe his family and friends are encouraging him to D.
We are scheduled to go to trial in February and I just grow more anxious to think my marriage is coming to an end and I don't know what to do. I feel like a deer caught in head lights. I feel like he still loves me but is HURT and rightfully so.
Thanks to reading the DB I have done a 180 and seem to believe this has contributed to him at least accepting my call but I'm not sure if the distance and lack of frequent communication is having a positive effect on our marriage.
What can I do to save this marriage with such distance between us? I'm lost for words and have prayed and asked GOD to help but feel helpless and hopeless each day that goes by. PLEASE ADVISE! I would like to hear from some of the veterans!
