we accepted it because someone we loved and who we believed loved us was telling us that...in actions as well as in words...
i compare it to an abusive relationship (which I have been in too...) no one would be in a relationship with a person who punched them on the 1st date but they don't smack you on the 1st date
they didn't treat us like we sucked on the 1st date
Sadly it was the opposite. I think that is part of the personality disorder, making you trust and eventually become dependent on them.
but never again, right?
Yeah, trusting again will be hard.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.
Ok, that works too. LOL But seriously, I am a little leary of my own judgment at this point, and tend to keep people at a distance. I hope I get past that.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.
Ok, that works too. LOL But seriously, I am a little leary of my own judgment at this point, and tend to keep people at a distance. I hope I get past that.
wow, do I know that feeling!! could be why my best friends are online....
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.
Ok, that works too. LOL But seriously, I am a little leary of my own judgment at this point, and tend to keep people at a distance. I hope I get past that.
wow, do I know that feeling!! could be why my best friends are online....
I have good RL friends. I don't have a problem trusting women.....it is men. I make eye contact, I talk, I flirt, I dance, I run like hell!!!!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
