She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Big drama today
This will be long, and not well written.

Today was the day my W's friend's wedding. She took both D17 and S13 with her. They dressed up, and she asked me to take pictures of them all. She was acting very weird, almost flirty. I was polite, and told her she looked great. She asked me to take pictures of her and then kids, and then they headed out.

Three hours later, she calls me, voice shaking. I can hear the kids yelling AT her in the background. She says they are having a terrible fight, that she is a terrible mother, and that she can't handle it anymore. She doesn't want to be a mother or wife anymore and just wants to run away. The kids hate her. I can hear the kids protesting in the background that they've never said any such thing. She asks me to come out and help. They are in a parking lot outside a strip mall, near a McDonalds that they had stopped at to feed S13.

When I get there, she is alone in the minivan, and both kids have fled. I calmed W down, and got part of the story. I had to reassure her that whatever the kids had said, they were upset and they both loved her and needed her. D17 had left with the keys to the van, and S13 had gone the opposite direction.

I found both kids huddled up outside the macdonalds, and got more of the story from them. W had been a wreck at the wedding, with non-stop crying and strange behavior. D17 suspected her of drinking too much, and insisted on driving back which started the conflict, which by the time they stopped at the MacDonalds, turned into a full fight.

D17 confronted W with everything she knows, including some stuff I didn't know she knew. One night when W had passed out, D17 say her new gmail account, suspicious emails and pictures. She has concluded on her own that W is having an EA. S13 tells W that she has taken her ring off and is not trying at all. I'm sure there was much worse stuff said.

I focused on calming my kids down. I got the key for the van from D17, and sent the kids in the MacDonalds to wait for me. I returned to the van where W was waiting, and tried to get her to let me drive her home. She insisted on driving herself. She is calmer, and doesn't appear drunk at all. Just very upset. I think she her manic phase has finally collapsed.

I went back and took care of my kids. I had a long talk with them, telling them this was not their fault and mom and I love them very much. I then took D17 to her school party, and took S13 shopping.

A few hours later, W starts texting me:
W: "I don't know what happened. Maybe it's all me"
M: "They both love you and need you.
W: "We'll try to heal tomorrow. ok?"
M: "That's good."
W: "I'm going to call it an early night. Maybe we can decorate together tomorrow?"
M: "Ok. get some rest"
W: "Love you. U r the best"
M: "love you too"
W: "maybe we can go grocery shopping together tomorrow?"
M: "I can do that"
W: "it hurts that they hate me"
M: "noone hates you. I don't. The kids don't."
W: "I feel like I've ruined everything."
M: "We are still here. not ruined."
W: "you are sweet"
M: "Thanks."

I have know idea what to expect tomorrow. But this chaos needs to stop. Maybe she has snapped out of her fog/manic phase. I have my doubts, and I'm worried about tomorrow.

If you managed to read this entire post, please let me know what you think! I'm again lost.
This stuff seems to happen so fast.