So tonight look great. Flash your brilliant smile a lot, and dont be too focused on her. Dont focus on her at all, you need to become the Walk away spouse. When people are able to do this, it has some pretty dramatic results.
Are there any 180's that you personally would like to do? Quit smoking, spend more time with the kids, or take them camping, or get better at paying the bills. Is there anything that you wish that you could change to make yourself a better person?
Once you get to a place where you really are healed enough, and strong enough to be ok no matter what she does, it might turn her head. And if not, well, you have come out of it all in pretty good shape!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...