I am without my S's this weekend -- don't get them back until late Christmas Eve.
I went to our bible study group / dinner party last night. We did something different by all of us bringing our own recipe(s) for various Christmas cookies. We all got to together in the kitchen preparing and baking and conversing. It was a good time.
I was supposed to go to another Christmas party this evening but got caught up in too many errands today, including having lunch with a couple of friends visiting from out of town and finishing up their own Christmas shopping. I hadn't seen them in a long time. But now I'm too pooped to go out again.
I am now a bit angry and hurt having gotten off the phone with my two S's this evening, just a few minutes ago. I had tried to call them earlier several times but no one answered. They finally called me back from xW's cell phone about 45 minutes later. They were on the road with their mother headed over to the OM's place to (and I quote) "camp out inside Mr. OM's house."
The operative word here is "inside". So xW is now taking my S's for a sleep-over inside OM's home. WHen they supposedly camped outdoors they were pushing the envelope. Now xW is brazenly violating our parenting agreement by sleeping under the same roof with another man with our children right there in her custody. I am beside myself right now.
It wouldn't have been so bad but the purpose of my call, as always, was to talk to my S's about their day and to wish them a good night, however they called me back and the first thing out of S8's mouth were words of cover-up and excuse for what was about to transpire this evening. I could hear xW in the background not only interfering with my conversation with our S's but coaching and correcting him in what to say. The whole call was a sham and I feel like I can no longer have a decent conversation with my kids when she is trying to put the big chill on what they can say.
I feel now like I am losing my S's to her immorality. I fear that by the time they understand the depths of the damage that she is inflicting on their fragile moral compasses, it will be too late. And the fact that she has them trying to cover for her and they're going along with it just disenheartens me absolutely.
I could raise this with my L, but all that will get me is another hourly charge. Sad to say, in our so-called justice system, a complaint by a father just does not have the impact as it does for a mother. A father just does not command the same respect as a mother does in a court of law. My complaint is likely to fall on deaf ears. But if I don't defend my position and at least say something against this violation of our agreement, then it becomes tantamount to consenting to it.
I am tempted to drive all the way over there and get my kids out of that situation, but again the law won't ever back me on that one.
This is wrong. Just damnably wrong. And the World doesn't give a crap.
I never, ever in my darkest nightmares would have thought my former W capable of ever doing something so Godless and heinous, not her.
