TD. I have experienced what you going through. My W and I have been separated for 2 months now. Although I am still new I have learn so much in the past three months.
I would mske an appointment with one of the phone counseler from this site. I have had 4 so far with 5 more to come. The Phone sessions are great. I also was seeing a therapist locally but they seem to analyze and not give solutions.
The DB coaches are here to help you repair your marriage. After every session I feel great and motived.
If you have the money I would suggest getting the 6 sessions. I sign up for 3 and now I purchased the 6 sessions.
Stay focused, it's going to take time for your W to find herself . Read the self help books too.
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