Maybe if you just decided that the M you had.....is dead, and you need to grieve it and get past it. Then, begin to focus on the possiblity of a fresh start......and whatever may be out there for you. Hopefully, it will be a new M with your W......but whatever it is, we want you to be happy.
Friends & relatives have a hard time being neutral b/c they don't want to see us hurt......so of course they find it hard to understand how a person could keep loving somebody that did so much hurt. I hope your W realizes what a gem she has in you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
