WAW on suicide watch, what now???

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I had my first DB coaching session yesterday and my coached agreed that I need to be my W's friend and try to rebuild the trust in the friendship. I don't know if my wife is seeing other men right now or has plans to in the future but I am going to "act as if" our M is going to continue and things are going to improve and we are going to reconcile. I know that is contrary to what most of people on this board have advised but it sure did work today!!
I was supposed to meet my wife for coffee today to discuss the sitch with my D13 and my W. We were supposed to meet for just an hour or so, it turned into breakfast, lunch and a full day of shopping for the kids for Christmas. I made sure I did not bring up the R at all today and was upbeat all day. We were together for 8 straight hours. Had some "drinks" at lunch and finished our neccessary shopping and then started having fun shopping for ourselves. It was like old times!!! There were sometimes where I struggled to keep the conversation going b/c I tried to keep it 100% focused on her and her world. I never realized how much I talked about me and my wants and needs and not shut up and listen to her and the things she wants and needs and her feelings. As we arrived back at the house so she could pick up S9 and take him back to her place to spend the night she mentioned something about her lawyer and I declined to talk about it and she said okay. I wanted so bad to hug her at the end of the day but it did not happen which is okay, I will mark it down as small goal.
A lot of positives today and I realize that there will be a backlash and I am prepared for it so I can do a 180 on her. I know Sandi has said "It is not about doing what feels right but about doing what works". Time will tell if this works, but I have sucked up my pride and was able to spend a lot of time with her and that "felt right". I will probably stay on this thread through the holidays but hopefully I will move to a different area soon. Merry Christmas to everyone I hope God's love will shine down upon each and everyone of you reading this.