...Don't have a choice. She wants the divorce ASAP and Im not stopping her. Im getting the house (its paid for). Ill give her what she wants and keep my home before she changes her mind.
Right now we are doing an amicable divorce and have the same lawyer....
....Well she is still living with me while waiting for the Judges signature / waiting period and for her own place to be ready.
She is civil when she gets what she wants but far from friendly towards me. If she doesnt get what she wants she acts like a spoiled and angry 13 year old girl.
The words I read in this thread lead me to see a person in agony who hasn't yet figured out what he wants. If G450 doesn't yet know what he wants, he can't communicate that to his wife or formulate an action plan.
Earlier comments (such as those quoted above) seem to have a degree of acceptance of divorce, anger, and cooperation with the divorce process. More recent posts seem to not want to let go.
My suspicion is that G450's communications with his about to be ex-wife are similarly not clear as to his intent.
I would suggest that G450 really needs to (1) figure out what he wants, (2) talk to his about to be ex-wife to find out what she wants, (3) and jointly with her figure out what their joint plan for the future is either together or not. Once that happens he needs to accept their joint decision.
Again I suggest that G450 look up the stages of grieving and figure out where he is and how he can work through the process to reach acceptance.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
