Nor would you have a son and a 23 year marriage. What is your point?
My point is that I could have been married to somebody that truly loved me. We could have had a child and a marriage that lasted a lifetime instead of 23years. Not to mention a much MUCH happier marriage.
Had I heeded the warning signs and married somebody else, this would all have been a possibility.
By marrying me out of convenience she took that away. But I am just as guilty for being blindly in love.
Ironically I guess my post should go into a love / newlywed forum instead of a db forum. But then again at least I had the opportunity to vent.
Well if that is what you believe then why are you here? Go find your "soulmate" and let resentment and bitterness change 23 years of good and bad times into horrible times. Become a horrible person towards you wife and attack her every chance you get for the rest of your life. Or do something stupid right now to get back at her.
OR
You can figure out what you can do to improve. Show her tough love. Work yourself through the grief cycle. Heal. GAL and 180 yourself. Learn who you are. Improve.
You are in your own fog right now as well. Picking items and connecting them together to justify what actions you are going to do next. This is not healthy. You need to balance them out. Write a love letter to her about all the beautiful things you have done together over the years and how much you love her.
Burn it or rip it up into a thousand pieces.
There are better ways to deal with this anger and resentment. Venting is good. Get it out of your system.
That is your choice.
But I will not offer you any advice if your end game plan is to hurt your wife.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
