feel like giving up - talk to me!

[luvless]

1. What can he look forward to when he gets home?
2. Why should he want to come home?
3. What have you got to offer him?

Luv, I hope you don't take this as a personal attack on you. I'm really trying to show you where you are going wrong. [/quote]

He comes home with a bad attitude - even the kids say "dad what's wrong with you?" Right now there are no positives. He likes my company and right now he can't be near me so....no positives.

1 - to lounging and listening to his christmas music
2 - because his family is here!
3 - I can't offer him anything - he doesn't offer me anything either.

I understand EXACTLY what you are saying but I think you are giving my H too much credit. He is acting like a pompous jerk! There are ways to express yourself without being disrespectful. I always say, "you can say what you want it's just HOW you say it."

Maybe I don't want to hear him. I hear everything he says as a slap in the face. I've been a good wife - I've been faithful - I take care of EVERYTHING here - he works and that's it. I'm ONE person doing everything. I am taken for granted. Thats my rant.

Now...I can't do anything for him right now. I just can't. I have to do for me now. I'm done trying to be understanding. I will be respectful towards him and I will do for me. I will change my attitude (even though I am dying inside!)

I am going to take everything you said into consideration. I don't take offense but it's hard cuz he's been so cruel. It's just unacceptable to be treated this way. I will CHANGE my attitude - It's not in me to be unhappy...and this...is complete misery.

Thank you G - you are very much appreciated