Well - she did the IM first thing this am. I responded to her "how are you" by saying "great - I had a very good day yesterday" - I also set up to go over to pick up my office checks next Tuesday or Wednesday and we will do dinner then. That will be one week without any visits - hope she starts to get kinda lonely by then but that will likely take a lot longer. Also she is ok with me cleaning out the rest of my stuff while she is on the trip. I do not know, however, if she realizes that it will ALL be gone. I do not know what effect her seeing nothing (or almost nothing) of mine around might have on her though.