Just been into the shop where W works. Guess who is now working as a temp on the checkouts ... yes OM.
How far away is the next grocery store? Just incase you can not deal with this. Calm and collect. In difference to the scum bag.
I needed every bit of strength and control not to rush over there and drag him out from behind the checkouts. He knew exactly who I was and while he tried to remain composed I know he was concerned - red face, avoided my stare. I unfortunately said to D 'that's the man that took your step mum away from us'. Not the right thing to do but it was a bad moment in an otherwise bad day.
That is ok my friend. She knows who the enemy is as well. She also can now put a face to the person who altered her world as well. There is nothing wrong with you here. You were calm and collect and your daughter watched how you handled your self. This would be a great chace to have a life lesson conversation here. How it is better to act on facts in a postive way. Than to lose control and end up doing something that can harm yourself or others. I am sure you can think of many more.
I am not a violent guy. I'm not even an overly aggressive guy but everybody seemed to know who he was and what he had done. I noticed two security people watching me as I left. I noticed there was also a guy on OM's checkout chatting away to him. It was if backup was close at hand.
Calm and collect. You are a strong person. You made the right choice. Next time give a little wink. And do not forget to smile and wave with the security people. If you know them. I asked for the Personnel Manager's number and will speak to her on Monday. The affair started on the shop premises (in another town), he couldn't get a transfer from one store to another because of his sickness record, he left the store in the other two and is now working in the store with the woman he is having an A with? Doesn't seem right to me. Don't know if they will do anything but I will be pushing this as far as I can.
Then I have been thinking. If everybody does know what he has done (assuming I am correct and they do) maybe keeping him there will do two things 1) the pressure of the colleagues will hurt them both 2) the pressure of them seeing each other every day will put pressure on them.
Too late to do that. Just let it go. The store knows about it already. You let it play out without your involvement. Embrace the path of Plan B. Keep in the dark. Do not send a message that your hurting from this and need to lash out in any way. At the moment I really need to calm down. Feel like my heart has once again been ripped out and stood upon. Did you take a walk on the beach yet? Let the sound of the waves calm you. I did the wrong thing tonight. They have the power back now. They know they got to me. They know I am hurting. Bad move on my part. I think you did the right thing tonight. You were strong. You passed a huge test. What was that test? P17 can continue with his life. P17 did not give up any aspect of his life to the Adultery. P17 is a man who has an inner strength which will help him overcome the shortcomings of others. I am Proud of ya P. Look how far you have come. And you did this while going through a hard cycle. P.S. Did you learn to mindread over night?
And I loved this woman again ... why? Beats me. But sounds like you still do
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