So my mom called today. Background: Mom is a passive/aggressive martyr type. My sister is an attorney, and by nature is kind of argumentative and will correct your grammar/facts/whatever when she talks to you. Not a good combination.
So mom and sis never get along well. Then mom calls me crying about whatever went down, and sis calls me b!tching about whatever mom did. I have tried to stay out of it entirely, working on my boundaries!
So mom has been calling me the last couple days. Sis is coming nto town this weekend for a family party tomorrow. Mom has been pumping me to see if I know when she is coming, what plans she has, etc etc.
Today mom calls and says turns out she is coming today, they talked earlier. Mom is plannng on cooking a roast for supper but didn't ask when sis was coming. She called and said she needed to ask me a favor...
Me: Mom I am not calling her to see when she is coming.
Mom: OK thanks, bye... (she pouts/hangs up when we don't do what she wants or if we tell her something she doesn't want to hear)
Me: You are a grown up, if you want to know when she is coming you can call her.
Mom: Thanks a lot bye...
WAS I WRONG??? Sigh...............
This happens way too often. Then if sis tells me "A", and I relay it to mom, later sis decides to do "B". Then I am put in the middle b/c mom thinks one thing and then something else happens. I do not want to be anyone's go-between! Mom looks at it like, for all she has done for me (martyr!), all she wants is for me to ask a little question here and there.
I say learn to communicate like adults and leave me out of it!
