Just been into the shop where W works. Guess who is now working as a temp on the checkouts ... yes OM.

I needed every bit of strength and control not to rush over there and drag him out from behind the checkouts. He knew exactly who I was and while he tried to remain composed I know he was concerned - red face, avoided my stare. I unfortunately said to D 'that's the man that took your step mum away from us'. Not the right thing to do but it was a bad moment in an otherwise bad day.

I am not a violent guy. I'm not even an overly aggressive guy but everybody seemed to know who he was and what he had done. I noticed two security people watching me as I left. I noticed there was also a guy on OM's checkout chatting away to him. It was if backup was close at hand.

I asked for the Personnel Manager's number and will speak to her on Monday. The affair started on the shop premises (in another town), he couldn't get a transfer from one store to another because of his sickness record, he left the store in the other two and is now working in the store with the woman he is having an A with? Doesn't seem right to me.

Don't know if they will do anything but I will be pushing this as far as I can.

Then I have been thinking. If everybody does know what he has done (assuming I am correct and they do) maybe keeping him there will do two things 1) the pressure of the colleagues will hurt them both 2) the pressure of them seeing each other every day will put pressure on them.

At the moment I really need to calm down. Feel like my heart has once again been ripped out and stood upon.

I did the wrong thing tonight. They have the power back now. They know they got to me. They know I am hurting. Bad move on my part.

And I loved this woman again ... why?

Last edited by P17; 12/19/09 07:30 PM.

Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"