Ok a new day , a new email stating the following (Does it even require a response?)
"would be nice to know ahead of time because I have to get my meds and have a dr appt that I have to pay a co-pay."
The only response I want to throw out there would be "It would have been nice to know ahead of time that you were going to abandon your wife and kids, stick it in that FT, wake up one day to become the most selfish douche I have ever known, then turn around and ignore your kids for weeks at a time and whine and moan about lack of money."
Doesn't matter, I don't have it in me to respond like that anyway - It is petty and hateful.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I thought your response was an appropriate way to feel. It is okay to feel angry. I don't think his email requires a response. But it is certainly okay to vent here.
Mo3
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning
I responded by letting him know I took a little more to help with Christmas for the boys and then added that he was welcome to come over for Christmas...
Could be the fact that I just got home from Church however it "felt" like the right response.
Regardless of his decision, I know in my heart it was the best thing to do so I am happy with my decision -
Only took me 5 days to make it
Christmas party tonight - Part of my GAL...
(((Hugs))) to you all...Be safe!
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Just got to work and have the following email waiting for me....Now WTH do I do?
"Oldest S wants to come spend a couple of days with me after Christmas. I talked to his JPO and she said that won’t be a problem. If all is good with you I would like to pick him up Dec 29th and bring him back on the 1st. I don’t think younger S would understand the whole thing and I don’t want to upset him."
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
No, your life is not s**t! You are an amazing, strong woman dealing with an unbelievably difficult circumstance with grace and dignity and faith! Your boys have a role model in their mother that they can always look to for overcoming challenges in their lives. You can get through this. I am praying for you that this Christmas will be filled with blessings!
About your son's visit to his dad... I don't know there is much you can do about that. I think you need to keep your lines of communication open with your S before and after the visit so that you can deal with anything that comes out of it in a healthy way.
Have you talked with your S about why he wants to go, his current feelings towards his dad, etc.?
