I agree about contacting or confronting OM about anything, SD. There's nothing good to come from that. He's not worth your time.
Early in my sitch I attempted to sit down and write an Email to the OM, who I had thought was my friend. When I tried to do so I realized I had nothing constructive to say, and soon after realized it was because the person I was dealing with had lost all sense of decency. There was nothing to reach or reason with.
Age: 28 Wife's Age: 28 Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off) Married: Less than one year Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011