Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

I thought and thought last night, whether I wanted to send an e-mail to the new guy in my wife's life, but I decided that he would be able to figure her out on his own after a few months.

Exactly. Would you have accepted a letter from one of your wife's ex-BFs warning you away? Plus, anything you say or do will be seen as interfering with your wife.