Sorry, Bob. I did not explain myself well on that. What I meant is that when I filed for D (remember in the aftermath of finding out for real my H had had an A with his office manager for 5 years and had been denying it all along) I did it convinced that it was final. As things improved in our sitch I started to have hope but was (and let's face it I still am) afraid to trust again. I came to think of D as a 'cleansing' of our R; doing away with our old M and maybe finding a new and better R between both of us. But my H viewed D as a final step, so I stopped the procedures and have been on hold since.
Sorry for the confusion. I was only trying to say that your W may well think now of the D as 'away with the old hurts', but an opportunity for a new beginnig.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
