@Lotus -- While it's true that WAW has always been herself, it hadn't ever been laid quite so bare before. Perhaps it's part of her new sexual persona ("I'm over 40, I've been in a committed relationship for over 20 years; I've earned the right to share my body with whomever I want, whenever I want") that she lays things so bare (pun regrettably intended).
For me it was always about the partnership, though I obviously conceptualized of that term differently than she did; for me, she had 100% of her Professional Working Woman skillset and only 25% or so of the Mom skillset (which she would probably agree to, btw, so I'm not being mean or anything).
I on the other hand had 100% of the Creative Thinking Guy skillset and 75% of the Dad skillset (still can't make those friggin' newspaper hats ). But I also had -- critically -- the missing 75% of the Mom skillset as well (my lack of origami-like facility with newsprint notwithstanding, I can make a wicked bundt cake ).
So to me that meant she contributed her 100% Self and I contributed my 100% Self and together we made a 100% Parenthood Self, and that 300% = 100% of couplehood. So her innate selfishness had an offset in me, in other words -- and therefore didn't bother me. She could be selfish, since I was there to pick up the Kid'ly slack. Apparently I was wrong. I was supposed to be 100% Self, 100% Professional Achiever AND pick up the parenting slack. Stupid me.
@hoosiermama -- I suspect you Speak Truth. But g*dd*m that's a Suck to be Embraced, ain't it? I feel like Geoffrey Lewis in "High Plains Drifter" ( YouTube @2:07). [BTW, I'm running the 500 Mini-Marathon.]
@Gypsy -- I'm not looking at the ground, have no fear (we used to march and sing, "ain't no point in looking down, ain't no discharge on the ground"). I managed to get up at the prescribed time this morning, carefully read and edited my lawyer's proposed settlement offer, knocked some things off my to-do list, offered some supplications to Ganesh just to keep the bases covered, and am feeling somewhat more mojolated today.
Definitely need to get back on the GAL wagon, which I sort of fell off after the Big Midwestern City Marathon. Tomorrow the local mall has a "Jingle Bell 5-K," so I think I'll show up for that. I need to get back to my fencing club as well, but it's closed for the winter break so that'll be a Jan 10 GAL. I'm going to do a little home improvement today -- put in a closet organizer for the front hall closet, which has historically been a mess, and a low-flow shower head in the kids' bathroom to save $, so that'll be a sense of accomplishment as well.
Basically I need to be a DB'er again, for my own sake. Gets you out of your head which is a place I spend entirely too much time anyway.
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