Hi Libby,
It is hard..feeling more the finality of H breaking with me. The doubts as to whether he will ever come back, whether I'll want him back, worrying about the effects of this change on my girls.

I think its hard finding a way to maneuver through this change without resorting to more 'childish' emotions..the inner child in me wants to scream and plead for H to reconsider, to yell at him for being dense..you know- express all those things that flit through our brains and emotions that we keep in check.

Thanks for your thoughts. Most stages for us LBS are difficult depending on where we are in our journey and where our MLCer is in his/her journey. The thing we can count on is it will change, its inevitable if we want to grow..something will change. I know if given the choice, I'd rather be the LBS than the person in MLC-its seems to be a very tortured journey for them.


M44 H46 T21 Married 16y
D14 D12
Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09
Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09
Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce
Divorce final 6/30/10.