An update is in order and I can't sleep tonight soooooooooooo.......
Where to begin, let's see, ahhhhhhhh maybe here.
I last was on the boards a couple of years ago just before my D. At the time my XW was still spinning but had slowed down some with the birth of her 1st child with OM. With the birth of that child came a sudden change for the worse, she decided and used her contacts within the system to get her new family onto the welfare system. She walked away from her job of almost 20 years, and it was a damn good job too. Around this time she began to plan and scheme and became very bitter towards me, plotting my demise so to speak.
There were no real concerns from her about our kids, except the money they represented on the welfare system.
Here in Canada we have something called a child tax benifit. In a nutshell it's a monthly payment based on income to the parents of children. I knew that we (as a family) didn't qualify as our income was too high but what I didn't know was that she had been recieving payments through a disability section of the program as our kids are disabled.
Soooooooo..........
She begins, she quits paying CS, claims to welfare that she has sole custody and suddenly shows an interest in the kids asking to have them overnight more often etc. She runs out and gets herself a new place to live with all the trimmings and the bills that come along with them.
During this time I had done the work and realized my mistakes and made some positive changes in myself. I had met A wonderfull woman and life was good, very good. My GF and I traveled and were living pretty large, really enjoying ourselves and what life has to offer. My GF and I were going semi slow and keeping our kids out of this budding R untill we were sure it would last.
My XW didn't like this one bit but she kept it very well hidden and put up a very good front, offering to have the kids when I would travel etc. It was all part of her scheme only she had forgotten just who she was plotting against.
One sunny morning I recieved a phone call, one that would be life altering for one of us. The caller told me they were representing my XW in collecting arrears of CS. I was very confused and the fact that the snotty arrogant caller was not listening to me made me very very angry and set the wheels in motion. It would seem that XW had lied to welfare about custody and claimed the kids were living with her. She was coming into alot of welfare money and they wanted thier money out of me.
Ever try to fight the government? Let me tell you it isn't easy and I'll tell you that it takes a toll, but I did and won. XW now was showing her bitterness and began to use the kids as pawns in this little scheme of hers.
The fight with the government and XW's bullcrap wore me out physically and I got very ill, lost a ton of weight and ended up in the hospital for a few days.
