Well, it's been exactly one week that I've been home alone with daughter. H came home 2 nights after work, late shift this week to bring her to school in the am. So basically I've been a single mom for 6 nights. It was really hard and tiring. But I made it through. H has agreed to come for Christmas Eve and Christmas day. I'm not sure how it's going to go, since we are not speaking. When he is home, he stays in the basement out of my way. It's really strange, but it seems to work. Oddly, daughter has not asked why daddy is sleeping down there or not coming up with us. I did not initiate contact once in the past 7 days except to email him my schedule for the week which he requested, so I don't think that counts! I feel much stronger now that I did that. I have been pleasant when I see him, said hi, but then went about my way. Lastnight he did ask daughter what she wanted for dinner, she said we are going to the diner, and he said ok and walked back downstairs. I told him he could come, but he said no. I'm not sure the point of him being home if not to spend time with daughter. Tomorrow will be difficult because he is taking daughter to his family's to celebrate Christmas. (we've always done the in-laws on a different day and my family on Christmas). I plan on spending the day out of the house finishing shopping and maybe buying myself a nice Christmas present! Just wanted to update my situation and get some confirmation, am I doing the right things? I guess this is a form of going dark, minus the contact about daughter and childcare situations? No talk of the visit to the lawyer, no talk of next steps, really no talk at all. Do I just keep it this way or do I need to say something about how we will act on Christmas? Obviously I want it to be as normal for daughter's sake, which is the whole point of him being there. Remind me again, this does get easier, right?
