I am also new on this forum and on the MLC journey.
One of the best things I did as Cyrena suggested, was get a bit of control back, not take things personally as they are in their own hell and detach from his life to save my sanity. None of it comes easily but with practice it gets easier to do.
Try and do things for yourself that your H won't expect. They think they know us so a slight change makes them look up!
Here we went and put the christmas decorations up which H usually does. He was so suprised when he visited the children and asked who had done them. I could see that he didn't expect us to cope and we had.
I still love him and I am watching and waiting. But I need to look forward as well which I am now trying to do. There are no guarantees but I am always hopeful at this point.
