Where in the world did that come from !!!

[bluerain]

Hi Blownaway. Dont panic. Do you have to sell the house? Can/would she agree to walk away?

I also think that its a mistake for you to be unconcerned about the FB EAs. Women want to be swooned, and a man can do that from a computer pretty effectively.

Its not your problem that she will be broke when she has to pay child support, this is her choice.

Read up on validating and on boundaries. Validating means that you are recognizing and showing her that her feelings are valuable. You dont have to agree with her, you just have to let her know that you seriously are listening and knowing what shes saying. Dont argue with her, dont try to defend yourself, just listen- practice the phrases "I understand" and "Im sorry that you feel that way".

In the beginning of your sitch, she followed the walk-away-wife script and you followed the left-behind-spouse script. They all say and do the same things, and we pretty much react the same way. Look around at some other threads, and comment in some other places to increase traffic on your thread.

Dont be surprised if she starts to get really nasty, remember you cant control her actions, but you can control your actions. Always do things that you can be proud of.

Its late tonight, but you will get some great advice here, some of it will not make sense, might even seem counterintuitive, but this works. If what your doing hasnt been working, isnt it time to try something else?