More weird behavior from W. Her actions follows the script of so many stiches here, but still it surprises me and leaves me confused! However, I seem to be in better control of my emotions this week, maybe due to me finally letting go both of her and the outcome. For the first time, I'm feeling some real detachment, almost relief. I actually feel pretty sad about it, but not full of panic and desperation like I have been so much before. I'm prepared for this to be just another low in my roller coaster of emotions.
I had very little contact with W this week, with the exception of wednesday. She didn't want to talk (rolled her eyes), but she wasn't responding to my email for copies of the bills and time had run out. She was angry; I remained very calm and just said that I need to take care of the bills, and that it was important that we communicate calmly for the sake of everyone. We divided everything in half, and I confirmed that I had canceled the last remaining shared credit card. I had to assert that MY bills be included. We agreed on a total amount that I need to put in her account, but she was obviously shocked at how little it was going to be. By the end of the conversation, she had calmed down. She then apologized for her families cards and gifts (without me saying anything), and said she had asked them to refrain.
Then the weirdness: Thursday morning she left me a message on the answering machine asking me to feed the dogs, and ending with a quick "love you".
This afternoon, she sent me a text saying she was going spend the night at our next door neighbors house to get away from the stress in the house. (Our neighbor is away for the holidays).
Tonight she sends me another text saying "Sorry for everything; I'm having a bad day". I wait a while to reply, and then told her "Thanks, I understand and I'm sorry you are hurting" Five minutes later she texts "I miss you. Sounds weird I'm sure". I'm not sure what to say to this, I wait a while an then reply "Me too".
It seemed wrong not to reply to her at all, and I didn't really know what to say. I figure she is feeling lonely and sad. Of course, for a little while it got my hopes up, just a little affection from her has such power over me. Still, I can tell that it's not what it used to be and I'm detaching. That make me sad too.
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