She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

(((Sister)))
Thanks.
Yes, I do better when I let go of the outcome. I've been able to focus on that this week.
also, that thread was really useful.

(((Sandi)))
D17 seems to be doing much better now
Nonetheless, I think there is some misinformation going on both from my W and from D17. As you said, W is playing D17 against me, and D17 is likely using the situation a little to her advantage in a typically teenage way. I've been strong, calm and non-reactive with her this week, and it's worked out well. Your words were helpful with this!

Yes, I think W should tell the kids what "she" is wanting to do, but I think that is unlikely to happen anytime soon. Both kids noticed right away when she took off her rings, and divorced me on FB, so they both know who is the WAS. D17 in particular, since she eavesdropped on a R talk 2 days after the bomb. I just think having us both sit down and talk then might be keep them from wild speculation, and also prevent W from telling them he own "story" of what's going on.