Coach is on the scene so not much I will say except that I am sorry that you are here and you will get much good advice here. I do have to say that I would reconsider giving up your tri hobby and selling the gear. I know that training for tris can be consuming but physical activity is one of the most healthy ways to deal with the stress that you are going through. Moderate it but don't give it up IMHO. I am an avid road cyclist and it has really helped me deal with my sitch.
