TD, You have your hands full - welcome to DB. Lots of work to do, You have to think thru this to work it. Off the cuff here are some things to do until things get "normal."
- stop trying to please her - housework, giving up your hobbies
- read up on boundaries
- you need to do intel to see if she is still in the affair, her words are not good enough
- don't confide in friends, friends give comfort and support your thinking (DB your friends and family)
- don't believe what she says and only part of what she does (don't try to rationalize the irrational)
- learn how to validate her (doesn't mean you agree but understand) use your bedside manner - compassion
- you are right she doesn't respect you, women don't love men they don't respect - this needs to become a goal: earn her respect back
Read other threads to see what works and what doesn't. You want responses then chime in on others threads, open your mind and implement the advice given here and do your homework. You can handle it.
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
