how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Thanks, newmama. I was just going back to your first post and my heart was aching for you dealing with all of this with a new baby!

As for NC--it's not really a choice. We just don't communicate unless it is about the house and apartments. He is...gone....poooof...OK-that's not true--he did send ONE email with an article of interest and I sent him TWO--to which I got positive responses and scoldings from cutterbug and puppy.

So, truly now, other than the house, it is radio silence. I am out and about in town, and puppy says to trust that word will get back to him about how fabulous I am. Don't know about that.

I like your advice about being consistent. I overdid the "happy cheerful no worries!" the first time we did bills in October. Perhaps a little too low-key last night. Somewhere in between should be about right.

I will be going out of town from after Xmas until after NYE. I was going to let him know that--just because of the tenants possibly having some emergency--but then I decided that I will give the tenants the usual info with both our contact info, the emergency #'s, etc. If they can't reach me, and have to reach him instead, let him find out that way that I have left town for over a week.

Of course, the mystery there only works if there IS an emergency and he gets contacted.

Sheesh.