how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[newmama]

Avermont, I get it! You want to hear that you don't have to do NC! You don't. Whatever you do, be consistent, monitor results, don't chase. Live your life, make self improvements, don't obsess and your WH (bf) will end his affair eventually.

I kind of agree that there isn't much we can do to end it if they leave us for them but we can maybe make a difference in speeding up or sloing down the end. ????