We live about 10 hours from our families (from the same town) and we have not seen them since last Christmas. She has not mentioned going there this year so I brought it up last weekend and as I expected, she does not want to go. I am sure that she does not really want to be in the car for that long with me....sad but true .
My parents are getting old and I know going there is the right thing to do. Throughout my M, I would submit to what she wanted to do, even if it meant not doing what I wanted to do or thought was the right thing to do. However, this weekend, I am planning on telling her that "I have decided that I am going and I would love it if you would come with me but I will be OK to go alone if you don't". Unfortunately, this will put pressure on her to go b/c our families have no idea of our problems and if I go alone, it will be pretty clear something is up. At any rate, I am looking forward to seeing family and old friends after this horrible year!
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