But now when I stand up to her it leads to an argument.
In spite of what some women "think" they want......they really don't want to call every shot all the time. They truly want their man to speak his mind. Then, she has the freedom to express her thoughts as well and hopefully they can come to a compromise.......but if not, somebody has to be the "president" over this business of M.
I read once that anything that had two heads was a monster. I know a lot of females would scream if they read what I often write, and I for one believe in equal rights, but in a M somebody has to have the final say. In some things.....I think the woman would probably know best, and in other things the man knows. I personally think it is very unattractive for the W to take over and run the entire show, and I think the man can be a bully when he does so. In a good MR the partners will respect each other's POV and one of them will usually take a back seat....depending on the subject matter.
In your case, you have allowed your W to be "boss" about everything for all this time.....and she has grown into the monster, but she has had the power (so to speak) too long to know how to lay it down without a fight. You have been way, way too passive. I don't think women like men who are passive. They may like men who are quite, or shy.......but if her H is passive in the MR, she will eat him alive. She will lose all respect in him as a man. I think that is what has happened with your W. She may not say it, or you might not think so....but in her heart, she wants you to man up and take charge in some issues. Givng in to her and always allowing her to have her way is not how you make a woman happy! I think if you were to go to your computer search and type in making her happy, that it might shed some light on that subject for you.
I am not wanting you to turn into a bully, but just stand up to her. Yes, she will probably fight you tooth & nail in the beginning, but she will respect you. She won't like it, but she'll respect you. And she must respect you in order to be sexually attracted to you. That is just how women are wired.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
