After giving my H the note, I asked about the formality of a S cause I'm prepared to ask him to move out if he's really spending the weekend away. Somehow, my MIL broke the news to H and he spent the evening talking (well, mostly listening according to my MIL) about our M with my PIL.
H held me tight and cried like a baby when going to bed on the night of receiving my note but he didn't say anything though. I cried a bit too and gave him a few pats on the back of his neck. He also started to call the following days and asked how I am doing etc. Each night he would hold me tight for a while before going to sleep. As for me, I continue with my detachment. I would answer his call but would not call him and I never asked about his weekend away ever again!
The night before his scheduled trip (Thur), he started to cry the minute he stepped inside the house. He held me tight and said that he didn't want to let go of me but he didn't say anything further when I asked him what he means.
He had breakfast w/me the next morning (I was also having my day off) before telling me that he was going out and "won't be having dinner w/me" - so, no weekend away. He still spent the day w/OW but I really didn't care. I had my hair done and is quite happy w/my new hairstyle. He called me in the evening asking to have dinner w/me but I told him that I have eaten already. When he came home, he handed me a X'mas gift!
Since I am still waiting for my DB book, I really need some advice to my current situation:
- I thought about buying a X'mas gift for him but gave up the idea as others on the forum said that there's no need to observe special occasion while DBing. Now that he's given me one, should I buy him something in return?
- It's going to be our 15th anniversary on 23rd! I've asked him weeks ago and he said that he's going to take the day off. I haven't asked him again due to the recent development in our R and I have no plan to ask him again. Come what may - I will spend the day w/him if he's going to take the day off and if not, I am going to find some program for myself. I'm just not sure if it's a good idea to give him a card on that day? It's been always our practice to give each other a sweet anniversary card w/loving words. Is it Ok if I just give him a "Thank You" card thanking him for all the years we've spent together and all the happy memories?
