First Piecing Thread

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Hi Hope,

Thanks for the reply. It helps to get other people's perspective who have gone through or are going through the process.

The comment your W made to you about feeling pressured to have s*x may have more to do with gender differences than WAS/LBS. Not too long ago I had the same convo with my H and he reacted in the same way you did. He was offended and asked me if I thought he was a s*x addict. Of course I told him that's not what I think. There were a couple of reasons I was feeling pressured. One reason was the many unresolved issues with the PA and H's reluctance to address those issues. A woman's emotional state very much co-relates to her desire to have s*x. I would guess W feels very guilty especially after you had such a nice evening out. Her guilt would definitely affect her sexual desire. Also with all the talk about affairs in the media the last couple of weeks, I think this would affect her. I know it's affected my H - he's been consumed with guilt lately.
The other reason I was feeling "pressure" was that I felt my H just wanted the physical part and not doing enough of the emotional like complimenting me, flirting, etc. and this made me feel resentful. Try to do these things with no expectations. After some time, you may find W opening up more physically.

I like the idea of buying her sexy underwear for Christmas.