Kev,
All right, I'm sticking with your thread. It's a beating but there are a lot of great suggestions here.

I second the Dave Ramsey for financial, and Allen's GTD for organizing. For Men Only was great for me, need to check out the Nuts book.

I'm a huge fan of the 12 steps. Writing out a personal inventory and making things right with those people is the heart of it. Your coping mechanism really doesn't matter. Mine was porn and Internet. (BTW, just from how much you post here, you might want to research Internet addiction wink ). I go to Celebrate Recovery which is a Christian version and meets in churches. Can't recommend it enough.

Hang in there man, Merry Christmas!

Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
Responded, now dark
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK