As far as my experience goes, things in my marriage are about a thousand times better than I ever thought they could be. Entirely a result of (eventual) non-confrontational, non-blaming bedrock honesty, effort, and compassion on both sides.
I can second that.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.