I often wondered what your W would say about not going to AA too. As the exw of an alcoholic, I would be very leery unless he was in a working program that provides accountability...otherwise they call it a 'dry drunk' which is someone sort of white knuckling it. No offense Kev, but the whole alcoholism thing is very tender to me.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!