So, my L emailed me today. The 2 Ls sent the judge an addendum with the info of my new job. The judge wants to set a continuation of the final divorce hearing (which we had last week) and the earliest X's attorney can schedule it for is March 5th. I'm ready to have this over with, ready to date; ready to move on. I guess there's some reason or purpose behind this, but hard to imagine.
You're probably not going to like hearing this, but I think it wise to "decompress" for a while after the Big D before launching into dating. You need to find yourself again, or more importantly who you are now, before involving yourself with other people's foibles.
But that's just the advice I've taken to heart. Other folks offer other advice. Some wise, some not.
Has your L ever asked, or especially conintually asked if D was what you want? And your answer?
No, b/c X has always been so eager and wanting the divorce. It is now what I want. X sends me a rude or nasty email several times a week. My L says he talks (or emails to me) like a dog, and he really does sometimes. I deserve better than that.
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Undoubtedly your H's L has done the same, and in his heart of hearts, what do you think his answer was?
Because of OW and his intense anger towards me, I think he really does. If/when OW drops him as her pattern is (3 marriages down already), then maybe he'll feel differently. But it will be too late.
NC, I would agree with you, but my D has taken such a long time. I've been going through this process now for about 2 years. I don't intend, and won't get into a serious relationship any time in the near future, but would like to do some casual dating at this point.
Karen, I tend to agree with you about the dating. You are at the point that you know there is no hope for reconciliation and most likely no want to on your side as well. The divorce has been well under way for a long time.
I am in the same situation, except I'm looking at three years! I have chosen to date casually. I am not ready to be in a serious relationship and I don't think the men I have been seeing are either. I think just friendly companionship sometimes gives us a boost.
By the way I hope your new job goes great tomorrow! I'm so proud for you!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I think I have my days off in my noggin!! So sorry that I didn't check in last night. I hope today goes well. I am sure you will do a great job I just hope you enjoy it.
Lots of hugs and good wishes.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm ready to have this over with, ready to date; ready to move on. I guess there's some reason or purpose behind this, but hard to imagine.