Well, I am a teacher and I understand that a child who has repressive or overly controlling parents lies or becomes secretly deceptive. (they learn this as a survival skill)
My H's family was terribly oppressive, all 3 of his siblings, lie like rugs and cheat (I thought he was going to be different!) and he was, for 25 years.
He is so sanctimoneous, he makes me hate church (religious ferver is a MLC trait for some) I can't trust a word out of his mouth (example: Do you talk to your brothers poorly about me? HIM: OH NO! we Never talk about you! I kind him emailing my personal letters to him to this bro) WHAT! But will he EVER "have my back?"
How can I move forward while I am peeking over my shoulder to see where the knife is. (not real knife)
It is just so stupid. I do OK for awhile, (we live together) then I trigger and I can't stand to see or hear him. Due to his "stunts" I have anxiety, PTSD and depression. I take Welbutrin, but it does not fix everything.
His children hate him. He thinks he is Ward Cleaver to the outside world.
