...Though I'm currently tolerating the situation, I cannot accept it long term. I know that, and that's why I'm here, and reading and thinking and talking to various people about the situation, including my wife, of course (but in gentle and humorous ways)....
.....For me, there is no substitute for total and all-out passionate physical sex consisting of lots of foreplay and sex and mind-blowing orgasms, all lasting the better part of an hour, if not more. To my wife, that's way too long to even consider participating in a non-sexual way on her part -- it's just total boredom and "what's the point" kind of activity for her, and total shock that I would want to do it all again within 48 hours, which is about as long as I want to wait for a repeat....
I will echo some earlier comments. If I were you, from what I have read in the above post, when your marriage reaches it "gridlock critical mass crisis point" I would (as a last act) try one of the pasionate marriage couples workshops. It is the only thing that I have read about (so far) that might produce the kind of intense sex you seem to need.
Either you are more of an alpha-male than I or maybe I am older and physically recover more slowly, but extemely vigorous intercourse with a passionate woman bruises the head of my penis to the point that I really need to not have sex the next day. After a full day plus off, I am ready to do it all over again, but if I have sex more than every other day, it needs to be gentle and involve less animalistic passion.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
