I'm sorry you're going through all this. Yes, it all sounds very familiar for a spouse in MLC. Essentially, this is a person who was not allowed to grow up fully during his formative years, and now needs to go through teenaged rebellion, etc. Are you familiar with how teenagers behave and think? My 13-year old has periods where he's moody and overly emotional, when everything is my fault and will argue interminably even though what he says makes no logical sense. Most MLCers are stuck using their teenage brains, hence their childishness and contradictions.
At the same time, the MLCer tends to be going through a depression (often because of the loss of a parent or friend or a personal health crisis--did your H experience this?) which drops their seratonin levels to the point that their brain is not functioning normally.
Now you've found this place, use it to discover that you are not alone. If you read the stories and particularly the resources, you will find that there are strategies which can help you ride the MLC storm by learning to protect yourself.
