My wife did the same thing, packed her bags and left her daughter and the daughter we were adopting. It is pretty messed up. Did not tell a person she was going to leave, we had no fight nothing. In the end her "knight" turned out to be a drunk bum, and she is now on her 4th guy since she left.
ISSUES.
Me 33 WOW 31 Married 12 years 4 YOD 1 YOD(adoption process) Bomb & moved out 4/01/09 Divorced 12/17/09
Uhm, until April I thought WH only had an EA! He lied. And I read somewhere that for men, once they do the deed with woman, it solidifies/ intensifies their feelings of live. Funny because I used to think WOMEN were the more emotional ones and MEN just were pleasuring themselves. Sorry to the men out there. I was ignorant!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I just have to have patience - one day I will have my answer and let me tell you sparks will fly in this house if I was correct in any way.I will eat him alive
Just remember as we age. Women become men. Men become woman. ( That is why it is very important for men to exercise, as it slows this down. ) _________________________
Oh so that explains those man boobs and the whiskers that women grow on their chins!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
My day started awful - I had to change the bank account for my January payment and when I got the amendment letter it shows only 600 instead of 7000 - I will call them on Monday but I have the strong feeling they made a mistake the first time with the back payment - could this year get any worse, honestly I got then the tree with my youngest and we planned on decorating it and make popcorn strings this afternoon and when we picked up my oldest from martial arts he had already a play date organized in somebody elses house without asking - so I exploded - literally
So we sat in the car with the tree in the boot and I let lose for at least 20 minutes - all the frustration of doing everything alone all the time - first I was just angry and then I just cried and cried and everything in front of them
And when we came home one of our kittens climbed up the tree - I mean literally up to the top she can't be left alone anymore in the living room
all the frustration of doing everything alone all the time - first I was just angry and then I just cried and cried and everything in front of them
(((bestrong))) it was bound to happen. Did you try to explain your behavior to the kids? I don't remember how old they are, but can they help you a little more around the house? You really are doing an amazing job taking care of them by yourself! Even though it sucks to be alone!! I guess you have been doing this even when you and your H were on good terms, right, since he works out of the country?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
They are 8 and 12 and I know they don't mean bad - I explained the my behaviour to them as good as I could.
There are so many things which come together right now - X-Mas alone or the first time, the money which would have helped so much, all WH's family coming together for X-mas and him telling them what b*tch I have been for the last 4 years (he said to me when we had the fight about the mortgage 2 weeks ago that I was useless the last 4 years) I just feeel so helpless sometimes and I hate everyone hearing all the half stories about me.
I have been mum and dad for my kids for 4 years out of our 6 years marriage and I have been useless... I really am so angry I could scream all day. And don't even get me started on the whole infidelity issue...
she can't be left alone anymore in the living room