Aver, I'm wondering if what you are struggling with in terms of worrying that you were "too independent" before can be looked at this way: I am guessing that before the bomb, you were independent and also somewhat "disengaged" from your BF. What we are suggesting you do with DBing is to be "independent" in a different way. Don't pursue, don't crowd... be aloof, mysterious, looking fabulous, etc. BUT, when you do have the opportunity to see him, be around him etc. then be ENGAGED, but only briefly... then be the first to disengage again. For example, make eye contact, lock the eye contact, give a flirty smile, then look away first. In conversation, be light, engaged in the conversation without giving too much info about self, show interest in him, but then end the convo first.
