I was drinking with family and came home and let it all out. I couldnt help it. I was holding it in for too long.
Uh-uh. Nope. No "I couldn't help it." It was a CHOICE, and you made that choice. There are other ways to express yourself that are respectful and allow you to have your say. Unleashing the beast upon your W--no matter how horrid she is--is not good for you.
There are no victims here.
I used to be the person who'd bottle it up until I unleashed a bottle of whoop-azz on my H, and that did nothing but make things worse. Through IC and a lot of personal work, I've learned how to express myself in ways that are productive.
You need to take care of your anger...FOR YOU...in a way that helps you begin to heal.
Sorry for the 2x4, but I get it. I found a love letter my H was writing, which had been painstakingly edited and revised with red pen. H was sleeping downstairs at the time, and what I most wanted to do was wake up him, scream like a crazy woman, and kick his butt out. But I didn't. In the middle of the night, I went for a walk instead until I could feel the feelings subside.
What are you doing to work on YOU?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
