Still Wandering

[NOMAD]

I told her that I will work on improving my listening, which is actually one of my first 180s from 9 months ago. I also told her that she cannot describe it as "NEVER" in the future. It went well.

A critical piece of intel surfaced yesterday. She was googling the OM from an out of state PA of over a year ago. Many open issues now come together including 2 additional out of state hook ups with OM including the last one with our son in tow. I inquired at that time and she obviously said there was nothing to be concerned about. She's was greiving the end of this PA 6 months ago. No evidence of contact and again we have had no detailed discussions about any of the EAs or PAs yet. I think I will let this lie for now and let it come out in future MC if needed.

She has continued IC to examine her emotional disconnection with men. Don't know if this is intended to improve our MR or her future Rs with OM. Should I inquire?

She wants to have a New Year Eves party at our house with about 100 people including her own friends that I'm kept away from. Not sure if this to celebrate "an end" or a "new beginning". Should I inquire?

I told he I didn't appreciate her separated sister going on a date this weekend with a friend of mine. I told her I wasn't going to get involved but reminded her that her sister was still married. She said their divorce is inevitable and that I was old fashioned, too conservative and didn't understand how "today's" relationships work. She may be right or she might be wrong.

So, after I gave her a back rub we ML exchanged ILYs and had a pleasant night's sleep.